I do not think there is a number of different ways to do this, actually only one. Change your reaction to whatever the incidence may be. Sounds vague but it really isn’t. Let me give you a couple of examples not related to being fat, but same concept. Years ago when my stepdaughters Nadia, age 10, and Natasha, age 12, and I were driving to the mall some teenage kids in the back seat of the car in front of us made obscene gestures…. you guessed it, they flipped us the bird. Well of course the girls were horrified and were like, “Kandy did you see that!!” and I started laughing. I told them to start waving and smiling at them like they knew them and so they did. Needless to say the teenagers turned back around seeing that their instigation did nothing to upset us. As we were walking into the mall the girls were laughing no longer the least bit concerned about the rudeness of the other people.
Another example would be when my son Nick played the sax in the school band. He was getting upset about this boy in front of him who would always turn around and scowl at him if a loud “squeak” was made during the music, basically insinuating it was my son that made the annoying noise with his instrument. After he mentioned it a couple of times I told him that the next time the boy turned around to scowl at him to just give him a wink and smile. Nick started laughing when I said this but I told him I guaranteed it would work.
Relating to being a fat chick, one incidence comes to mind a few summers ago when Nick and I were at the beach walking down the sidewalk to the pier. The area was really crowded because it was the 4th of July and everyone was in good spirits and having a great time. All of a sudden some guy, obviously under the influence of something, leaned out his window in his truck and yells sarcastically to me. “Hey beautiful!! I love you!! Please marry me!!” I blew him a kiss and yelled, “I love you too baby!!” Nick lost it laughing and we continued with our great day at the beach.
We cannot control the actions of other people, but we can control our reaction.
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Until next time, keep laughing!